Hi Strawberry123

On Dec 31 I went for lunch with my boyfriend and ran in to my ex and his girlfriend. Sounds fine doesn't it. Except his girlfriend had been his mistress for six years. So what is the timeline for grief and betrayal and how do you feel better?

I admitted I got royally screwed over and that helped. Over the past year I have been remembering all the ways my ex abused me mentally and emotionally mostly and sometimes physically. I got in to a habit of being angry and of adding to the drama he brought. It felt good to admit that I didn't always act with dignity towards him. And then, the best thing in my life is letting myself chose not to be part of someone else's crazy feelings and behavior. I take a walk when he gets going when he visits me, and I give myself a break when I try to figure out how he could do things, like analyse me with his mistress and come home and tell me what was wrong with me when we were married. Life is really nice without a person who hurts you.