I'm not afraid that he's going to harm me. That has never been an issue. The issue is his immediate change in tone of voice when I say to him "I'm upset" or if I simply ask "What are you going to do about work"? He gets immediately upset that I asked it or finds some instance where I annoyed him and brings it up. Turns everything back on me and I damn near end up apologizing to him for him missing work! He never wants to talk about issues because if I question him while he's telling me what's going on at work he gets more defensive. Like when he told me that he may see if he can get laid off and just collect unemployment and I said "What's that like $300/week which is half of what you're making now?" He goes on the defensive and raises his voice and goes "Yeah at least it's something right?". And I say "it's only going to make your debt situation worse" and he practically yells at me "Well I need to figure out what I'm going to do and I am not happy there so would you just let me figure out for myself?!" That's my cue to back off as one more question will make him stomp out of the room.

This is why we can never talk about important things. He doesn't want to tell me about his debts or work or that he's looking for another job and would rather talk about "what's for dinner?" and "you should come check out this video game I'm playing".