I don't see two individual T's, but I see a T and a marriage counselor. MC has helped me with some individual stuff both within sessions with H and over e-mail/phone/text (plus in a couple individual sessions to deal with transference, but those were just a one-, well, two-time thing). I find it helpful because they have different approaches. T is a bit more on the tough love side, pushing me to change and questioning me more about *why* I do things. Whereas MC is more on the validating, reassuring side. I feel like MC has a better understanding of me and why I feel/think/do what I do compared to my T, but T has been helpful in many ways, too. Since I have strong paternal transference for MC (positive/idealizing) and some maternal transference for T (both positive and negative), MC has joked that they're like "mom" and "dad" (even though he's not quite old enough to actually be my father).

It's also helpful because when I've had a conflict with one, I can turn to the other. Both helped me get through a difficult time in early 2016, which involved lots of outside contact over the course of a few days. By having two different people to reach out to, I felt I wasn't overburdening one T with my neediness. It's also good if one is on vacation, that I then have the other one to see in session that week or reach out to if needed.