I can see this post being flawed as soon as someone without the disorder feels the need to reply... so keep that in mind.

I have been told by my psych that traits will never be an official diagnoses. Your traits aren't AvPD...likely a symptom of,, which
means you will NEVER be diagnosed with AvPD....no matter how many times you post and wish.

There is no fundamental point in learning what you don't have bc all you will do is try and aline yourself with it. Plus, importantly you're then creating a false illusion for your self which only adds to you and the psychs workload.
If you keep adding to issues you're only distancing yourself from reality.

Sure anyone can call themselves an Avoidant but they cannot back it up. You don't have the mannerisms of someone with AvPD and these mannerism cannot be taught as they have moulded the person since early childhood. So you're going to only insult those with the disorder if you try.
I can learn the Spanish language and i can fight a bull (well i can't and wouldn't)...but it's going to be very obvious to the people of Spain that I'm being something that I'm not....plus how insulted would they be making a mockery of their culture...thats how Avies feel with Pretenders.

Another important thing is a person with AvPD would never pretend to be something their not. Even if we had a inclination (not that, that happens) we would still keep our mouth shut, for the reason of being called out with internal consequences of torment. I wont go into this as again no point.

Its possible for Avies to have relationship but they cannot maintain them. Again not going in-depth into it as serves no purpose to those without AvPD.

As soon as a non-avie replies to a post then any poll or discussion about AvPD becomes invalid and flawed bc those views are from someone with other issues other than AvPD which only muddy the waters...PLUS its a ****ing insult.

I have said this respectfully, i have bitten my tongue as i believe you have asked a innocent question. hopefully i have portrayed this.