A young woman has complex trauma and she decides to get married right away because she does not want to wait and have a child within one year of marriage before she or her family knows that she has complex trauma. In the first month of marriage she begins to have rages, breaks things. In a fit of jealousy she even assaults her husband over an old girlfriend that he had no contact with. Her new husband and family are in complete shock and heartbreak at the abuse towards her new husband but being very loving and accepting of her, they talk kindly to her, knowing she had a difficult childhood and she responds by stopping her violent behavior. After the baby is born, she slips into a deeper depression, a bottomless pit. She fights more with her husband waiting for him to leave her and has difficulty taking care of herself. She is unable to hold down a job. Her husband and new family continue to support their marriage with hopes and prayers that she is able to heal in time. In the past 2 months, she has argued so much with her new husband, they thought it would be best to separate. After one night apart, some marriage counseling they remain living together. She continues to tell her husband that she is moving out. That she wants to live alone. That he deserves someone better than her. To her in laws, she tells them she has treated their son horribly and he deserves someone better than her. She says she has been believing lies all year and has been very depressed.

A counselor who specializes complex trauma, told the the family that the young mother doesn't feel worthy of her husband and new family. She is waiting for him to leave because all of her caretakers before have traumatized her. This is very heartbreaking news for her new family and they are more understanding of her angry sometimes isolating behavior.

How can her husband respond to help his wife, whom he adores, to feel safe and stable? Does he continue to reassure his wife that he loves her and will be here for her? Of course he will. How does he respond to her when she says she is looking for somewhere else to live apart from him? Any advice?