Yes, open marriages are usually based on sex. The man I was seeing actually quit all his other activities to be with me, and wanted to be with me without sex. He probably was missing companionship and real love in his marriage.

However, I'm not asking IF I should get involved in an open marriage. Agreed. I should not. That's not the question.

I'm asking an emotional or psychological question--WHY someone would suddenly find a married man attractive when clearly it's not a good thing--fear of commitment, setting oneself up for failure, giving up? I'm asking what in the world might be going through my subconscious, so that I can fix it.