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Originally Posted by eyesclosed
My extobe wife supported me when we were dating she was very empathetic so I opened up the vault of triggers and when we were married she started in right away doing them seeing how they affected me she now had control of me.
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That was very cruel, I'm sorry that happened to you.
My son is very empathetic, his wife, who has Complex Truama, will share things with him but she isn't very nice to him. Once, after she had a rage, she bought him a gift and then later destroyed the gift after giving it to him. She constantly tells him how she isn't attracted to him and wants him to leave her. He keeps tenderly assuring her he wants to stay together, that he loves her, and she tells him she's looking for a place to move out on her own. I'm crushed by her doing this to him. The one suffering from CTSD tends to be an abuser. She isn't ready to ask for help. She isn't in the first phase of safe/stability. I have met to talk with her a couple of times. I just don't know how often I could call her or meet with her. Once a week, every 3-4 days?