Sure I'd be up to having them over...maybe with a 48-72 hour notice but not 22 hours when I'm not even getting home that night until 9PM with no time to plan anything. The house is clean-ish, but there's still "stuff" sitting all over. It's not the kind of clean it would be if it were just me and I still think it's embarrassing to have people over. As we show them the house and go "Here's our extra bedroom. As you can see we use it as extra storage and the cat litter box". "Here's our bedroom with our crappy bed and furniture that I want to replace but can't do it because I have to pay all our bills." "Here's our computer room and notice how my desk is clean and H's has a ton of **** on it". Having 4 cats also means there is constant cat hair over everything so I need to vacuum. She had us over and made a nice meal for us so I don't want to have them over and then just throw down some Chinese take out in front of them. She also has a very neat and organized place. The kind my place would be if H wasn't there. Even our living room is embarrassing because he put up a Metallica poster and he's got half a wall with motorcycle posters, then there's the drawing from his daughter that she did when she was 5 which he has framed. None of that would be there if it was just me. He would be totally offended if I told him to take down any of those things, even though he had no problem telling me my picture of a lake in Canada was kind of blah and switched that out for the Metallica poster!

I would never invite someone over, in front of H without saying a word to him prior.