Gee so not only you support him financially but he decorates the house the way he sees fit. Gee. You don't have to show people your bedroom or spare rooms. Keep the door close.

Take out does not need to be Chinese. And many nice restaurants have carry out. If they wanted Indian you can check that out. It doesn't. It doesn't need to be home cooked meal.

I think it's established that your DH is an ***. He doesn't work and doesn't care about you and he does whatever the heck he wants. I mean it was established. I agree and so does everyone else that it's a nightmare. It's your choice though. Your choice to live in poorly organized and poorly decorated unclean place with poorly compatible husband. Unfortunately or fortunately life is full of choices.

You choose this life every day. You must have your reasons to live this way in 2016 when no able bodied adult is forced to do anything they don't want to