This actually shouldn't be news to you or difficult to understand considering that you've been married ten years.

Being in the military is all about conformity (I suppose)...But you're no longer in the military, you're out here where everyone is different. Especially when it comes to emotions and women and the need to reach out without APPEARING to reach out. Support isn't the same as getting someone to do what you think they should do.

Probably, reading cues isn't something you're proficient at (not meaning an insult, just an observation from your background and your posts).

Yes. We go shopping without a list.