Remind me again - how many babies did YOU personally have? You had them with pretty much no effort on your part. THAT is the difference between how easy it is for some men vs some women to lose weight. For men, they put in a little effort and they get results - not even great results, they just GET results. For some women, it takes a LOT of effort. A lot, a lot, a lot. Dont underestimate how much. I have a friend who is walking over ten miles a day, working out with a personal trainer, biking and swimming, dieting, and working full time. Do you call that "a little bit of discipline"? Give her some support and understanding.