hi with your experience in the mental health field is it not possible to have first hand observation of others in this position, or is it too close for comfort? I was married for 27 years and i suffer with bouts of severe depression/anxiety ,looking back the parts of the marriage was difficult, but that was for both of us, but which relationship isn't? i was the strong one ,emotionally, financially,and psychologically ,friends say my efforts to preserve my marriage were heroic, with hindsight i agree. my ex didn't have mental health problems ,she was a successful senior manager in a large company., who fell in love with someone else. i definitely did have problems at times letting her close ,but that was part of the illness, i'd describe myself as honest ,open,royal,vulnerable when i'm ill, but i'd say that i was one of the most loving persons that i know! does it really matter that i have a mental health problem?