Oh, yes...that communication thing where I expect my husband to be able to know my every need and read my mind...

My husband could have very easily written this just a couple of years ago. I expected him to know how I was feeling, what I needed and when I need it. It's obvious, right? Wrong...

People, especially men and women, view things differently. Your focus was on what you thought she might appreciate and her focus seemed to be on what she thought you would do, then expected it. Lots of thoughts going on, with not enough words, yes? It was the same with me and hubby.

It caused much disappointment for me and much frustration for him.

We had to learn to open our mouths and communicate clearly our thoughts, but especially our needs.

Can you explain to your wife that you "thought" you did what she would appreciate and that if she expected something specific, it would have been preferred that she state it so that she's not left disappointed and you're not "set up" to fail?

KD