My mother was an alcoholic narcissist
Your description reminded me very much of her. One minute happy the next you put grease in the wrong jar and your a worthless f'n moron. Screaming and yelling and swearing then the phone would ring and she'd pick it up and use this SUPER fake sugar sweet voice..ugh! Always expected us to do more than she does. Unrelentingly so..first day would be can you please do the dishes..next dushes, mow lawn, take out trash...she would get so irate if we ever stayed more than a few days. The woman lived alone in practically a mansion. Just her and her two animals..but stay more than 3 days and you are overstating your welcome invading her space even if you were our all day and just grabbed a bite to eat and went to your bedroom to watch TV or read then sleep. Once I was out her way for a 2week course.. almost didn't get to finish cut she was so unreasonable, by the beginning of week 2 I was a lazy piece of ungrateful crap if I DARED try to take a nap after my 5hr seminar! No! As soon as I got back I was expected to do at least 3hrs of house/yard work minimum! Because she "could be charging $150 a night for the room and minimal food I ate there that I dint buy myself!....but yet she has 6 bedrooms not in use and can't stand me staying on a different floor entirely...nexayse I was invading her space,and being useless sucking up resources causing her to lose $$ for all my extravagant 10 min showers and using her stove/ microwave..not to mention all the electricity I was racking up with my nightshade lamp 60 watt high efficency bulb...that I would leave on while I studied or watched TV on my own device to the extremely unreasonable hr of 11pm! P.s. this was during summer didn't get dark til 8/9pm...sorry I could go on about my train wreak of a mother for eons! (Lol)..I feel your pain
- LITW