When I was single I had a more than sufficient # of sexual partners. Some 1 nighters, fwbs, casual relationships, and a few I was more serious about scattered through. But all that changed when I met my now husband. I need general I was always in the mindset that single did whatever I wanted, in a relationship no wiggle room 100 % loyal and monogamous. As women we get called sluts and where's for sleeping around, but guys get applauded for the same behaviour even in this day and age that unfair unbalanced societal judgemental us still far more relevant than it should be. I have some strange personalities so I was a girly girl dressed up to the 9s to go out clubbing, but another part was a hardcore punk rock chick who was one of the guys and also desired by the guys cut a good looking girl who can drink ya under and doesn't hesitate to throw down with the rest of the guys when a brawl erupted, another part was girl next door chill relaxed jeans and tee-shirt football fanatic, and then there,was the hopeless romantic who feel for every "sweet guy"..but had sexual trauma issues..clingy but someone else had to step in for the physical aspect. The goth Catholic shool girl a tease who could be equal parts superficial and mysteriously deep. The shy nerdy girl who pined away over the band boys...and the only one I know of who still exists in same form attitude etc...The queen bee of the early-mid 90s alternateen. Bisexual multiple click floater lots of friends and frienemys. Low self esteem easily peer pressured into sexual situations...
Sorry to go off point about some of my various peeps but here's the point. I was very open and secure with my sexuality when I met my future husband. I think created friction and jealousy issues most that have been gotten over... by Oversharing our sexual pasts and proud of our conquests. Guys who are getting serious about you don't want to hear that much generally.. *oops!*..but you do not have to be a 1000% honest with a guy about your sexual histiry. You get to a point where the # if partners is duscussed. You don't have to give,an exact #...I wouldn't lie entirely either just whatever is not wildly off base that you feel comfortable with. And if they try to get you into the name game..simply say I am not comfortable going into too much detail about my past relationships...and bottom line if and when you end up serious,with someone...it's really none of their business what you did or who you were with before them. Sure naturally you will probably both speak a bit about your more meaningful relationships...but the rest is your past your call. Also please get std tested at least once a year! Because that is something that you most definitely should be on top of for you own health and it will become nessecary if you are serious about someone to be truthful about any thing you may pass on to them.. but until serious just like hopefully you do anyways you just don't do any sexual stuff without protection.. otherwise judging of you have been less than careful..I wasn't always great about it..latex allergy didn't help either..but I always was fanatical about getting tested and thank Yezus I lucked out with nothing but a benign case of HPV ...and not that I have reason or severe trust issues but I've been with my husband faithful since the day we met for over a decade and I still get tested yearly. Hope my blunt tmi honesty is helpful to you
P.s. We all have regrets but please don't allow societies double standards or anyone else to make you feel bad about yourself. You are who you are and you should be proud! Even if just quietly to yourself!...cut you got to kiss a TIN of frogs before you can even gauge what a prince is in your book ~S♡☆