dragonphoto, from another thread, I think you said you have been to only one marriage counseling session. Given your love for your wife, this is way too early to give up! I do not believe, as you wrote, that only one couples session means that you have "gotten the help that you need." Give the counseling a chance to work. You and your wife can learn new communication skills. And rediscover what brought you together in the first place. You've only just started. Why do you want to give up so soon? If things are not moving quickly enough, could you request 2 sessions a week from your couples counselor? Is your pastor/minister trained as a marriage counselor or a family therapist? I think it is really important that your counselor be a specialist with the right training for this. This may be your only chance to repair the marriage. I hope you will entrust this task to a person with the right training and experience.

If you feel you need to take the ring off right now, go ahead. (Your promise was just to yourself? Allow yourself to change your mind.) You can always put your ring on again tomorrow.