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Old Jan 06, 2017, 12:49 PM
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Originally Posted by Artchic528 View Post
*sigh*

I can't put my finger on it but something about this older gentleman who has been sending me messages on Match for some time isn't really jiving with me. I responded once or twice, but haven't been responding for a while now. He's nice enough, and I feel just awful not replying to him. He's about 10 years older than I, with a child, and looks to be of another ethnicity.

I'm far from racist, and I've been attracted to men of other ethnicities than that of myself, but I can't put my finger on why I'm not jumping for joy about this guy. I'm not racist. Honest I'm not.

Maybe it's because he has a kid and I'm not into kids? Don't get me wrong, I like them fine, but I just feel awkward interacting with them. It's something that doesn't come naturally to me. Honestly, I'm scared to death of even having coffee with a guy who has a kid or two by another woman. I think to myself, "what if I actually like the guy? I'm terrible interacting with kids and I don't want to have to deal with the baby-mamma drama.

Maybe it's that he's 10 years older than I? Might the age difference be deterring me? I've never had a "type" per se, other than nerdy and/or geeky.

Why am I so stuck here?
If you don't feel a connection with him, then don't go for him. You are forcing yourself if you do, and you don't want to do that. It's obvious this guy is not for you. Move on if that is what you want to do. IF you want to give him a shot, it wouldn't hurt to meet up once for coffee and if there wasn't a connection cut ties. Hope this helps ya.