Quote:
Originally Posted by Só leigheas
Very slowly, haha. Um, well first I described what a flashback felt like, what it did to me and so on. Then I explained what I know triggers me and how sometimes it seems like nothing does but I still get sent into my nightmare. My fiance did a lot of personal research on his own, come to find out, and figured out what to do when I'm in one, how to act etc.. He also developed a lot of patience with me, which is something special. I'm a handful who periodically tries to convince him he should leave me, every couple of months (that's how he knows it's bad for me).
Don't know if I really answered your question fully here. If you need more specific information go ahead and ask.
|
thank you for taking the time to answer my difficult questions Só leigheas,
What you wrote above that I bolded, is the reason I sought out a support forum. Are you saying that trying to convince him to leave is a trigger? What can Jay say or do to soothe that?
You would never leave him right?
My son does not want to leave his wife, who is a complex trauma survivor. She has gone from insisting he leave her over the course of a year, to I'm leaving you, just you wait and see. He is not allowed to say anything soothing to her or she rages at him. She has been in this mode of leaving for over a month now, I'm not sure how long. They are expecting to move into a permanent home this month. She says that when they move, she's not moving in with him, that she has found another place. She wants to live alone. She's asking him about their furniture and what does he want? He thinks that she may be making a deal with someone for a place to stay and selling a little product from home. That sounds funny but it's a global company. She's unable to hold down a job. Someone has to make her food, and she is very picky or she won't eat and lay in bed depressed for days. Any suggestions for helping her feel more comfortable?