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Old Jan 07, 2017, 12:19 AM
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Originally Posted by velcro003 View Post
For anyone who read my upsetedness at my friend's boyfriend who got very upset at me yesterday and said not so nice things to me. I spent the day an anxious, cry-ey mess.

I left it with him saying I was truly sorry, never meant to hurt him intentionally, and will give him space to cool down.

Today he responded (verbatim): "Yeah. Sorry I over reacted yesterday. Sometimes your behavior really pisses me off though. I'm tired of it. It builds frustration in me. That's all I have to say really.

I pondered on what to say. It didn't feel like a true apology, and that he still has dismissed me from his life, which will be hard as me and his girlfriend are good friends. I responded that I understand am am sorry, but I wasn't aware he was that upset. I said that I could only change my actions in the future, but if he wanted to meet up in person to talk, let me know.

Haven't heard back from him.

I still feel shitey, but also, I am really angry. My T said that I am doing the right things (even though I want to go screaming in the other direction), and that he overreacted emotionally and verbally, so she is proud of me...but I do not want to upset people that I care about.

A part of me really wants just to be like "eff you, R"...but I can't partially because he is my good friend's boyfriend, and partially because I don't like being a d!ck to people. I just don't know what else I can say.
This guy sounds like a real jerk. So there is no way you can avoid him altogether? If your friend glued to the hip with him? Maybe you aren't the only friend of hers who clashes with this guy.

You may have apologized way too much. If he can't accept the first apology he doesn't deserve a second or third. Eff him is right.
Thanks for this!
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