Recently someone who was once a very close friend has started talking to me on social media and wants to be friends again. Our friendship ended when I was hospitalized for being suicidal and she told me how ashamed she was that anyone might know we were friends after that. She was the only friend or acquaintance I had told so it wasn't like it was common knowledge. I was incredibly hurt by her reaction and we were unable to get past her feelings about my mental illness.

She's now shocked that I hadn't contacted her because how could I have thought that she wouldn't want to hear from me. She says she has many fond memories of our friendship and apparently zero recollection of why we stopped being friends. I've since been diagnosed with a few other things besides depression, but I've only mentioned that it's still a major issue for me. She ignored my comment.

My dilemma is this; I don't know that I want to be friends with her now. It's very hard for me to just act like nothing bad happened or to ever trust her to not behave like that again. It has been a long time and I don't see the point of stirring it all up again, a confrontation would help anything and I don't need closure or anything like that. I also get the feeling that she's lonely and I'm just convenient. She wants sympathy for her problems but I'm not comfortable sharing mine because I don't trust her to not be judgmental. For now I'm keeping a little distance from her and evading topics I don't want to get into.

Anybody else been in this kind of situation? A 'friend' who isn't really a friend ?