hi there
i am in kinda of the same dilema right now... i have a good friend who stopped talking to me for like 10 years when she moved to the States, and than suddenly when she moved back to Canada and wanted to be friends again... 9 years late i don't feel like i have anything in common with her anymore.

i agree with Seesaw go with option 1 or 2... if you can't do 3, but a true friend would not make you feel ashamed of your depression.

Good luck.