The Holidays are not my favorite time of year.I really don't like most in my family.To much drama and they are hateful.On Thanksgiving i might go to my aunt's sisters house.Instead of my aunt.I like my Aunt's sister better.My aunt will get ticked off and be her usally rude self.But i'd rather spend time with my aunt's sister and her husband.We get along better.Plus they don't treat me like crap.My aunt and uncle treat me like the black sheep of the family.Mostly because i don't have a good paying job.My Aunt's sister has issues with her sister.About the same issues i have with my aunt.Just recently again my aunt told her sister she is disowning her.My aunt is a yuppie scum type of person.If you get what i mean by that.Then for Christmas i'm going to Texas for a week to see my mother.Have not seen her in 3 years.To be honest i don't miss her at all.Still at times verbally abuses me.According to her warped thinking.She is my mother so she has the right to treat me any way she please.She has told me that several times.I'm 37 and she treats me like a child.But she is a total nag and control freak.None of us grown adult kids like her.She can't stop being verbally abusive.In the past.If i have walked away from her.She'd follow right behind me and keep nagging me.She is something else.I don't really have that much to do with her.I ignore a lot of her phone calls.She is in denial about how bad of a mother she has been.She even says i'm ungreatful and she should get a mother of the year award.Good mothers don't call their kids. Names like useless,stupid,a mistake,fat.ugly,retarded,dumb *** etc.That's how my mom acts.In public she puts this fake act on.But in private.She is just hateful and evil.How do i handle my mom?How do i tell my Aunt i don't want to see her on Thanksgiving day?