My older sister has nothing to do with my mom, who is 90, and it breaks her heart. Did not even come to the hospital when she broke her hip. I don't get it. Living at home was bad, but it was our dad that made it so rough, not her. She has been widowed for 8 years.

I'm her caregiver and we finally have the freedom to have a relationship. I would never abandon her, I advocate for her. I live only a mile away and see her every day to clean her home, give her showers, be her companion, etc. I set her Dr. appt's, hair dresser appts, etc. and take her to them (she no longer drives, thank goodness).

I do not get my sister at all. She gives no excuses except she has a 4 hr drive, so what?

I hear of your plight so often. Kids seem so selfish these days. Wish you happiness and a change in you children's attitude soon. They are missing so much! Shame on them, but they are hurting themselves in the long run.

P.S. Don't know if losing a child is worse or not. My mom has lost 3 of 5 children. I am her youngest (late, unexpected baby). But thank goodness I came along or she would be alone.