Good question. I decided I didn't want to date people who only wanted sex, and decided to 1. focus on people who gave me a good feeling, and 2. not care if I was single.

That all really started in the Fall of 2015. I got a new therapist, who is still my therapist, who I like a lot. Good people and men randomly came into my life too. I had a healthy dating life, and I was also happy being single.

I do wonder if what happened with my last boyfriend, briefly, in october/november, the guy who really hurt me who I dated for a month, I wonder if that turned things off its axis for me a little. I've found I'm suddenly unhappy single. Whereas before, I was like, I rock at being single and love it.

Update. I made a list of 40 healthy things I can do before I message dangerous guy. I'm going to get support for this too. I'm going to talk to my mom and to a friend who might understand. And post here.