It doesn't have to be a choice between committed monogamy or involvement with someone scary. There are options in between. At age 33, casual sex with reasonably okay men might not be the worst thing in the world. (I went home with a guy one night for casual sex. Now, many years later, I'm still with him.)

The first thing you need to do is close down the contact with this particular guy whom you find to be aggessive and pretty much a turn off. End it. Once you decide you really don't like someone . . . End It. Move on. You are wasting precious time.

Then explore what else is out there. Do it on-line, or in the flesh . . . but make other contacts. Go out. Meet people. Get up from your device (phone, tablet or desktop) and get out of the house.

If you're going to utilize the Internet, join a reputable "dating site" where you pay money to get matched with men who have also made an investment in a serious search for a real relationship. These "free" sites scare me. They're notoriously not free of risks.

There is no substitute for a meaningful relationship. Nothing you do by yourself is going to relieve your need to connect with someone. Lots of women - possibly most - can give themselves a more intense orgasm with a good vibrator than they'll get in bed with a guy. It's not just about "getting off." You need intimacy. You need emotional warmth and affection. You need to laugh with someone.

I don't think you're having much of that with this character. Alright . . . he breaks up the monotony. Set your sites a little higher. So you run into the occasional "jerk." In that case, you just move on.