You sound very angry, I'm sorry you have been shopping for a doctor to diagnose you with the label you want and haven't found one yet. You say you are at charter a place they specialize in this...why haven't they given you this diagnosis that you want? Perhaps the answer is that you don't have this diagnoses? Having a traumatic childhood doesn't mean you will develop this specific illness, yes your mom and brother were abusive and yes it greatly affected you and your mental health. But maybe you should be open to other illnesses and open to treating the symptoms instead of just a label?