Oh I should add too that I didn't feel any real excitement before either, and had to use lube. Now its all good, and we never need lube. I don't know if its just that I'm finally in love or what has changed....but I enjoy it so much now. I also used to always have to be intoxicated to have sex. Now I have it sober. So I don't know if that is a factor at all for you, but it played a big part for me.