I can definitely relate to confusion over the nice labeling. And I get how even nice people can have people who from a distance don't interact. I've known of the perceived fakeness of being nice brings to behind the back chatter. Or how nice can be the quality not to be included in the side debaucherous activities that they would prefer to be left unknown or gosh knows whatelse. The fake point was directed towards myself eons ago, it's that too good to be true mentality. People shy away from niceness. They Just do.

Is this not knowing who you are anymore stemming from more than just a word?

And I'm confused why what Alison wrote is a descriptor of not nice? I read it different.