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Old Jan 08, 2017, 02:20 AM
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I'm glad I could help. Just remember that this isn't part of you. It isn't an objective form. Meaning that it isn't something that is solid that you can hold in your hand or have attached to your body or intrinsic self in physical form. This is an entirely subjective problem. Meaning that it stems entirely from the mind. Everything has to have a start. If it has a start then that means that a person is probably doing the very same thing days, months, or even years later that they did when they initially "obtained" ocd. Meaning that your thought patterns are still the same when you initially had the first thought in the first place if that makes sense. The fact that you once never even thought about these things on a day to day basis is proof that you can live ocd free. Why? Because you once did. I don't know where these negative thoughts come from but I do know that they can be removed entirely. You just have to practice clearing your mind and then replacing it with whatever task you want to be focused on.

OCD in my opinion is like Social Anxiety Disorder times 20. Every time I try to help someone going through social anxiety I basically try to give them similar if not identical advice with "ocd" as well except with ocd it is harder to apply the advice because it is not only a fear (like social anxiety) but it is also a mind addiction which is why it seems like you can never move passed it.

For example when dealing with social anxiety disorder most of the time the reason why you can't get passed it is because.....

a.) you are concentrating on an irrelevant fear (a fear that shouldn't even be there in the first place) Why? Because either you are too afraid to be yourself or to have courage to be yourself when talking (afraid to face your fear) or when you are in a conversation with someone you aren't concentrating on what the other person is saying but rather focusing too much on how you sound, how you talk, or how the other person will perceive you when you do speak.

b.) you might even be missing out on what it ACTUALLY means to communicate. You have to have at least 2 beings or 2 parties (2 people, 2 sides, 2 etc...) to communicate in the first place. This is quite obvious. The only way to adequately communicate with another person/being/side/etc is to be fully engaged in what the other side is trying to communicate to you. If you are too wrapped up in your own thoughts then you aren't even really fully participating in the action of communicating because you are missing out on what the other side is trying to say to you. It'd be like stepping up to the plate to bat at a baseball game and trying to swing to hit the baseball while staring at the first basemen or something like that......
Basically what I'm saying is conversation is a 2 way street. Just like you have to have courage to get up to the batters box to swing the bat, you also have to have courage to be fully engaged in conversation or else you might as well not even do it at all honestly. If you aren't giving the other person your undivided attention then you are missing out on what it really means to communicate. It's okay to fail. You can't be afraid to fail. If you concentrate on what the other person is trying to say it will be easier for you to communicate and it will come out naturally. That's how you overcome social anxiety. You have to have courage to face people in conversation. You're probably just afraid of people honestly. That's okay because there isn't a person on this Earth that isn't afraid and if they say they aren't afraid or that they have never been afraid then they are boldface lying to you. Everyone fails.

Now with ocd it's tougher like I said because yes you can have courage and apply what I have said but it is a step above in my opinion because it is a more chronic and severe mind addiction. Also the fact that humans are intelligent doesn't really help either because your mind knows what's going on. You tell yourself to just let the thoughts be there but your mind also knows this too. So you subconsciously second guess yourself which is why I say to practice clearing your mind. Entirely. Clear and then replace, and then replicate and then rise in spirit. All while having courage and determination. You can't be afraid to fail because then it won't work.

Hope this helps,

Alpha
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