I hear you...my mother had to work too and she also got very sick when I was about 11. She had to spend a lot of time in bed. She has her own emotional baggage and problems and was not someone I could always rely on.

It's taken me years as an adult to forge a better relationship with her. It helps that I'm no longer dependent on my parents. I love her but at the same time have had to accept her failures and limitations and how those impacted my life both as a vulnerable child and today.

It's difficult to deal with. I wish you good luck and future happiness.