I have a childhood friend like that.

Well we are still friends but we rarely talk because I distanced myself.

Her comments and lack of empathy as well as passive aggressive style are just too much. She however believes that I am the one that is hard to communicate with but I really don't think so.

One time she asked why I haven't been contacting her and I told her that my mother was just diagnosed with cancer and she's having a hard time and I am overwhelmed. Her response was "she'll be just fine, it's an easy cancer, everyone else has it". Well it's round two and my mom is very unwell. Wtf.

When my daughter lost her husband, it was a tough time for the whole family, but all she wanted to talk (next day after the accident) about was how her daughter is doing. Like I cared at the moment.

She also constantly demands I fly somewhere and meet her in various locations, rent a car and drive places etc And she takes my refusals personally. I explained to her many times that I cannot afford additional vacations as I work full time, I take one vacation. with my husband and then one to either see my daughter or take time off when she comes to us from out of state, and with my mom sick we don't leave town for too long. She gets all pissy.

She then made a comment that she is upset that her daughter might become a teacher (waste of money pay for education for pretty much lowly career". It is just beyond rude as my life long career is teaching! Nothing lowly about it. After that comment we didn't talk for like a year

Bottom line she is rude like your friend but then doesn't understand why I don't want to see her. It's like who needs enemies when you have friends like them