Hey Rose, I wouldn't say you "bring it on yourself." I think that as social creatures and as people who may be lonely, it's...I don't know. I just don't want to see you beat yourself up. Things like that have happened to me too. I had a "friend" from high school who was worse. We wouldn't talk for long periods of time. then she'd call me up. and say "I'm sorry I was mean to you." As if that makes it all better. she was playing weird games though and had issues. But I digress. I am trying to say that I've been in those situations too.

I haven't read any of your other threads. But I was wondering if you might fee lonely, so when she does pursue you, all kitten eyed and wanting to take you to dinner, you might have less willpower and more excitement and hope. I think it's honestly an easy cycle to get into.

That's really interesting about your dad. And I'm sorry he treated you like that. It sounds complex, confusing, and possibly toxic, especially if you weren't ok with it. I say its interesting because I wonder if you possibly touched on something with the cycle, or feeling gravitated towards people like that, or just, tolerating people when you don't have to.