Great responses thank you all. I do think that over apologizing annoys a lot of people who don't do it. It feels very compulsive to me and I have a hard time controlling it. I like the idea of a delayed response or trying not to apologize at all if possible. Fighting and arguing is scary to me too and if feels reflexive when I say I'm sorry. I'd do anything to avoid conflict. Growing up my parents always seemed angry with me and I was always apologizing for existing, using resources etc. this is going to be a hard thing for me to change but I'm trying.