Butterfly24 - First of all, by scolding I mean "it's your problem/fault", "you have done nothing", "you are wrong", etc. "Negative criticism" would be a better term. Other than that, giving advice and leaving you to your misery if you say it doesn't work for you, or being angry with you because they feel they can't help because of me.

As for who's talking that way, those are a selective close few, either from family or friend pool.
But I now know to talk about issues with people I trust more on their reactions towards me.

Fuzzybear - you are right. However, when someone is angry with you they see you as the problem, although I have learned that if someone sees or points out problems in you, he sees you negatively and a distance is to be increased.
Everyone has issues and it's true. But I think it's important to talk about issues here and there. That way one can feel less alone.

starrysky - I also love the kind of thought you mentioned - the "equals on one plane".
I love to believe eventually we are all humans, who seek the comfort and love in one another.

Thank you guys