With all of that, it sounds like you're doing about as much as you can do for the moment. I can certainly understand how difficult it can be to have to wait things out.

Is college at all a good place to meet people? If you're there already, maybe you can find some other things to do while you're there? Something to participate in as well as your classes. I can understand if that might be hard because of your social anxiety, but maybe there is something that you would like a lot or where the people were easy to get along with.

So sorry that you don't have family. I understand that. It leaves a big hole in me and makes it hard to see how anybody else could like me or want to be my friend. But I keep trying, or isolate for awhile if I feel really hurt or scared or something and then try again. It's getting better but it takes awhile.