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Originally Posted by unaluna
Its a slippery slope. You have to defend yourself at the first poke, to let them know they cant take that path with you anymore. It takes being just a little more assertive than you are probably used to. I would rather be a nice sweet person - really! - but other people will just drag you away then. You dont have to be mean, just dont argue. Or cut the conversation short. Draw a little boundary.
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Thank you, luna. I do think I have a boundary problem. I could have cut the conversation short, when she started her stuff, and I was tempted. But I felt like she'ld actually get a kick out of that . . . knowing she upset me. So I participated in the game, and that's never a good option. There's got to be another option. Then, again, maybe there is no effective strategy for having a healthy conversation with a person like this.
I do know that I don't want this kind of encounter in my life.