Here it goes... I've come here because I need help with what I should do about one of my coworkers.
First off, you need to know that i am a super sweet person and cannot flat out tell someone to go to hell. And also for some reason, I attract crazy people...
I work in a call center where there are rows of cubicles, this particular coworker is in my row and was hired at the same time that I was. She does not get social queues, meaning that if I don't look at her, because I am busy, she will just stand in front of me until I am done my work or until I comment on what she is saying, if I am watching a show on my lunch she will come up and just start talking to me without me looking at her or talk to her, the same if I am reading a book, talking to other people or doing my job. She seems like the kind of person that always needs attention as there is always drama in her life that she feels the need to share with everyone around us...
The real issues all started when I was passing out my wedding invitations. She walked around to everyone's desk looking at them, then went back to her desk and didn't really talk to me. I should have thought that this was great, but being the person that I am, I felt bad that she was literally the only one whom didn't receive an invitation. The next day I brought her one... she came to the wedding, she and the guy she came with caused a scene in the parking lot that I was unaware of until long after my honeymoon when I found out from a friend.
To make a longer story short, she started dating one of my roommates (my house, he lives in my basement) and it's all down hill from there.
She is trying to create a sense of familiarity that has never been there. She started off by telling me how my roommate was so amazing, I say "okay" and then go back to my work, literally that's all I would say. She started asking what she should get him for Christmas and I'd tell her that "I don't know, I don't hang out with him, we don't know each other like that..." she will continue.
She now, for some reason thinks that it's okay to tell me completely out of the blue that my roommate asked her to get her nipples pierced and how she's not going to do it. My response was very wide eyes "okay?" Then looking away, VERY obviously feeling awkward, to do my job.
It has gone even further and I don't know if it's my fault or not... I invited both her and my roommate out for dinner because I wanted to bring up how uncomfortable she was making me... I had a little too much to drink, tried to bring it up but her boyfriend just shut me down when I tried to say something. Because she was drinking with me, I feel that she thinks that we've bonded, BUT she didn't come over my house again for months...
From there here's what has gotten worse... I dyed my hair, she did hers the same color, she asked my advice on where to get tattoos, I said I don't know, but she looked at mine as said thst she wanted to get something similar to mine in the same location. A few weeks later after I got a new tattoo (that I had been talking about months before she brought hers up...), she said that she wants to get one in the same place and just as big (a half sleeve).
She started talking about me at work to a friend saying how her and I should be closer friends and that she thinks that I shouldn't be friends with another coworker (who I am very close to) and that I don't hit 'like' on her Facebook posts like I do hers, so now she's stalking me on FB, this is such teenage behavior and I'm 30... well, my friend told me that this happened and I caller her (the problem chick) out on it, she denied it then sent my close friend a txt stating "you know that I don't have a problem with you, right?"
Most recently she told me how she has framed my wedding invitation and pictures from my wedding and has them hanging in her house.
Just last night, her and her boyfriend stopped by so that he could get some clothes then go back to her place (again, it has been months since the last time)... I had no idea that she was coming to my house so I was having a nice Saturday night drinking... it's impossible for me to be rude when drinking and I don't want to make someone else's guest to feel weird, so I was super nice to her... since then she's has texted my over 5 times.
How do I tell this woman that I see everyday at work and who dates my roommate that she is making me super uncomfortable?