I feel like that. I'm never at ease around people. Always anxious and my mind goes blank. So, I don't know what to say in informal settings. I wish I can help you, but I suffer from this as well, and I don't know how to deal with it, not just yet.

Many things we inherit from our parents, genetically or behaviorally. We have no control over that. All we can do is to learn how to handle them (I blame my parents a lot, but it doesn't do me any good). It's not fair as not all have the same background and abilities, and it's a difficult process, but we have to try to live our full potentials. I felt much better when I left home (to study abroad), although I still suffer the residual. Probably my parents have their own challenges to deal with, but it was too much for me to bear, although to them we were living in heaven because everything materially was available to us. But it wasn't the case because emotionally the situation was unbearable.