This is a topic that I struggled with in sessions and that I continue to see through my kids therapist. Now I'm not in therapy but I'm still involved in the inconsistencies. The difference now being that I'm involved as well as my kids in this particular case.

Recently my kids T announced that she will me going on a maternity leave which all expected being that her belly was growing. We first had to decipher on our own that she was pregnant and not just gaining weight. Once we asked her and we verified if my kids asked what would happen during the time that she was out. We discussed it as a family and based on their needs and the courts as well.

Last week she told asked me what I wanted to Do and that if they needed or wanted to see someone that she would give me recommendations. I said ok. I'm the only one involved at all times picking doctors and change in therapis and all of which she knew. Their father is never involved especially being that he doesn't live in the same state. She was okay with it. She discussed everything with my kids.

She recommended someone in the same office who graduated recently and I told her that I didn't feel comfortable with that. After I asked for
More recommendations she said that she would need them to speak to father and see how he felt about them Continuing therapy while she's on leave. My son and I didn't get it. He texted her upset about the situation and she said she wouldn't discuss it through text. Now he's upset for A week. She never said while we were there that she was discussing it with the father and waiting on his response. Then my son asked her why she would need to do that. She said that it wouldn't make the outcome different she just wants to know how he felt. She refused to give me her list of recommendations until she heard back from their father eventhough she said that nothing was contingent on that.

The whole thing doesn't make sense at all. She was bothered by his text. She told me that she would want to discuss if they wanted a female or male and my oldest said that they already have discussed that. This isn't our first issue with inconsistencies with her. I just had hoped it ended.

Certain therapists just don't understand the importance in keeping consistent and not hiding things and changing what they say. This disturbance was caused by her of which I think she handled this topic poorly and it didn't need to turn out this way. Now the next session will consist of fixing what she caused. Again another therapy session which consist of mending the therapeutic relationship.

Many of us have been through this emotional roller coaster when it comes to therapy and it's sad see and know that the younger population also go through the same experience. I bet when we go in she will be defensive and state how she's right and has done nothing wrong. I've heard a million times through now the third therapist that I have encountered. This is what stops me from continuing therapy. The one recommendation she gave to us not only is she a recent graduate but she's not under any insurance plan but according to her she's cheap at $40 which is a steal. In most cases you get what you pay for. The alternative is to pay the copay of $15 and get someone experienced. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out the better deal especially me being a single parent.