I really get this. And with the courts involved and all of that. . . Maybe/probably the therapist knows your parenting is the one that counts, but because of the legalities, which she may have forgotten when she was talking with you () she had to backtrack some. And, yes, "therapists are never wrong" and if you're dealing with the courts then they will listen to a therapist more than a parent, especially if parents have opposing views.

I don't know this for a fact myself by my daughter has worked as a guardian ad litem in child custody cases and, yes, that's whose word the court will put the most weight on. Ugh.

But sounds like you're lucky overall? Just frustrating, I know. If the kids are doing well, or better, that's great!. Good for you, mom.