Dutch, you're divorced so some man found you attractive and I'm sure there are many more who would. It hurts to make a friend and then have them drop you for such a shallow reason but you didn't really know him, was infatuated with your idea of him (since you hadn't met him in person; who knows what part of him was true/false!) so I would actually be glad you didn't meet, that his true character showed up when it did rather than later in a relationship.

People have "ideas" of what they want in a person and another that doesn't quite meet those fantasies isn't going to be as attractive as any fantasy until their full personality and "liveliness" and spirit come into play in person. I remember when my husband mentioned early in our relationship how he liked a few different things than I am but I assure you he wouldn't trade me for any fantasy now :-)

I would go out with friends, guys with them and meet some guys and talk to real guys in person and you'll see that there's nothing in "looks" that will make a difference once someone gets to know you as "you" the package deal.