Myzen --- I don't know about the laws in the UK. However, in the US there is no part-ownership of a house for a person whose name is not on the mortgage, especially not for an only-two-year relationship.

One would think there is an ethical obligation to be fair about material matters. Unfortunately the concept of material fairness is difficult for many to grasp. And the concept of nonviolent relationships also. Hence the need for women to be very careful about placing themselves in someone else's power.

Pilarlina --- You and your animals should come first. Never give the benefit of the doubt to anyone else. You have experienced violence at someone's hands. That person does not deserve to ever see you again, much less to be trusted.

Such people don't need to use violence again, or very often anyway. Once they have used it, fear is in the household and changes the woman's behavior. She cringes and walks on eggshells, catering to his whims and demands, no matter how unreasonable. There cannot be love under such conditions. Not after one has been conditioned like a lab animal, to behave only in certain ways to avoid being abused.

These are not theories. I speak from experience.

Shakes is right. If you plan carefully, you may be able to get out quickly without interrupting your schooling. Think it over. It's time for you to leave. Just do it wisely, not impulsively. Shakes could be a good resource for you. She seems to know the ropes. And remember, material things can be replaced. Your life cannot be. Also, your feeling of self-worth and human dignity is being damaged every day you stay there.

It's a good time to walk before you get teeth knocked out, before your face gets disfigured, before you get a broken jaw, before you become brain-damaged from a clout on the head, or before you get choked the same way the dog was. It only takes once.

Adieu