hi i only just recognised a pattern in myself ,others pointed it out for many years, but would i listen? i am drawn to women with bigger problems than my own, it stemmed from having to parent my mother ,i came to a realisation recently that i need a partner who i don't have to rescue all the time ,from 7 till 21 i was the caretaker of my mother and had 28 years of it in my marriage, -i've had enough!! i want to be part of a team where we take care of each other.i'd also say that any partner can't provide all of your needs ,in an ideal world maybe .I'd say take a breath and take it slowly