I am an alter and have to be out a lot to deal with every day things. I have come on here to ask for help or ideas on what to do. The problem is we go to therapy, but we're not the ones the therapist is allowed to work with, because she doesn't have the training to work with DID, but I do end up there most of the time but don't let the therapist know. Any how the problem is: How can I tell the therapist that the problem with the host person is there is a trauma that hasn't been dealt with, and we can't heal as long as she just keep thinking of the abuse and trauma that each of us personalities has gone through. The Host knows there is something inside but will not and even accept that it is the main reason she can't get further in therapy. She just keep throwing the thoughts of our trauma, and we have done dealt with it. Any one know what we can do?