First off, personalities develope through Ones OWN experiences a& are NOT something that someone else can help you develope. Sounds like you are young & could use some good therapy to TEACH YOU the skills you are lacking. A mu h better place to learn skills than from someone you are emotionally connected to.

I would also question if what you think is love for him after only 11 months & a lot of fighting is if fact love of wishful thinking that is would be love.

Breaking up with him might just be the best thing you could have dine for yourself. You need to learn who you are yourself, not in relation to who you are in relationship to someone else. That is best left for after you know yourself.

For me, even at my older age, the DBT therapy I went through for 2 years learning skills & learning how to express myself & my thoughts & emotions was the best experience of my life. I reuly believe it should be a class offered in high school as a requirement for graduation because those are skills needed throughout life & most parents dont know them or are too dysfunctional to ever teach them to theit own kids

Only through learning experiences like that on a persoal level will YOUR PERSONALITY grow & develop inyo YOU, not someone that someone else wants to make you into to please their own needs.