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Misssy2 · Jan 11, 2017, 07:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Vibrating Obsidian

Hello,

I'm overall new here, have been here for about 3 weeks.
I mostly love helping people with my insight.
I advice and show, more than I tell to do.

I made a post recently which was meant to help someone.
But it seems my insight was innocent since I had limited knowledge on the complexity of the subject in question by OP. This doesn't surprise me, as I am open to obtaining more knowledge and insight, and I know I there are many things I have not experienced or heard of.

But my problem is the way people treat me when I'm "wrong" (I have mixed feelings about using terms of "right and wrong" when it comes to advising).
I ended up being 3rd person'ed by the ones who expressed disagreement with what I said.
I know that there is always more to learn and hear from people, but I tend to feel cast off when I'm 3rd person'ed in front of my face.
I also tend to feel offended when said I'm wrong in 2nd person, but the 3rd person way is worse for me.

For me, no opinion is WRONG. I don't think you should over analyze your replies. I think if you are speaking from the heart at the time than you are an individual and your individual input, insights, etc. matter

I generally only post on a post that means something to me. Either i have experienced it or have witnessed someone else experiencing it. If I'm on a post it is because I care and if my words are not welcome by someone that is not even the original poster (especially) I can chose to ignore the comment that is meant to offend me or set me off into a back and fourth argument spiral.

Being on a forum is a wonderful benefit in that you can say pretty much what you think (other than purposely attacking someone or making someones situation worse)....I tend to feel better when I SKIP over antagonizing comments.

My feeling is that if a person is responding to MY post in any negative way there is something going on with "them". And I don't need to jump into the circle of negativity. Just skip over them and move to the next thing whether it be a real life thing or the next post.

Not worth stewing about...really.