Need to keep this short because this hits to close to home with alot of hurts and regrets of not acting sooner.
Hope you get some counseling, stick around here and keep talking. It is so easy to be on the outside and say leave. I know because I use to be on the inside and people telling me to leave.
Yes they can change but they won't as long as they are making excuses, blaming others for their actions and we stay in the cycle believing their excuses, making excuses for them, believing we deserve it, thinking we can change them etc..
You deserve to be treated with kindness, respect and love and so do your dogs.
mlyn