My stepmother was very very controlling and I didn't see that as anxiety until my T pointed it out. Trying to control other people and situations and getting angry when things aren't done the way you want is a sign of anxiety, just a different way of coping with it than I had/have. Being parented in that way though "taught" me that way of being (but also taught me how to cook, a good thing :-)

I was born anxious :-) and my life circumstances weren't great at helping me feel secure. My stepmother did make me feel secure around her because of her black and white thinking and actions; I felt a little sorry for those around her with whom she was disagreeing though :-) I still remember wanting her when I got in trouble at camp for something that wasn't my fault, was the camp counselor's (and another adult was literally yelling at me for it) but since I was a kid I couldn't defend myself and my stepmother was not able to be there so I could only imagine what she would have done/said to the camp counselor/adults :-) to comfort myself. However, the downside of feeling secure in other's protection is, when you grow up you have learned their bad habits or haven't learned to be assertive yourself, etc.