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Old Jan 11, 2017, 11:24 AM
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I met my boyfriend almost 7 months ago, when the relationship began, he was settled in a job... and lived a pretty ordinary '9-5' lifestyle.. he quit his job for various reasons.. then was out of work.. for a good 3 months. He then got a temporary over Christmas but is now back to trying to find work again. As time has gone on i have noticed his behaviour becoming really very odd getting worse as the months have passed, but I just put it down to the fact that he was stressed with looking for work.. which would be completely understandable.
A little into the relationship he told me he had suffered with depression in the past.. but I have too(still am).. so i empathised with him.
Now.. tonight... he tells me he suffered psychotic episodes from the age of 18 - 24 (he is now 28) where he was in and out of being sectioned. He said he hasn't suffered since the age of 24 and was on meds up until just before I met him.
He says that he feels like he's going into this psychotic state again(i won't go into boring detail but he explained what are really very worrying symptoms) but told me not to worry because he would not harm me.
I'll be honest this has scared the crap out of me , with the things he told me... and I don't know what to do.
I insisted he see a doctor, he called the surgery this morning but can't get an appointment until next Tuesday!!
I have a 10 year old boy to consider in all this too.. I left his father 18 months ago after years of domestic violence.. I feel like my boy has been through enough and seen enough and all i want is a settled life for him.

I understand that this issue can't be easy to bring up in conversation, but to leave it all this time before he has told me i don't think is very fair. I really care about him now... as you can expect after 6+ months.

He says he's scared I'm going to leave him now and he loves me and the only thing that keeps him going and makes his life worth living is me.

I don't know what to do at all here I don't know the right thing to say.. incase i trigger anything. I don't think he will hurt me physically, but i still have doubt. I lived for 12 years in fear of my ex.. treading on egg shells, scared of what he would do to me next. It took all the courage i had to escape that. I realise i sound really selfish but i am having a daily battle with depression myself and trying to forget the evil things my ex did to me.

I know alot of people are would say 'oh just leave now' but its not that easy when you care for someone and they're looking you in the eyes like they are begging to be helped.

If he ever did anything to physically harm me or my son i would instantly leave, but he hasn't so far.

I am no pyschologist though and really don't know what to do now

I would appreciate any help or advice anyone may have. TIA
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