I have been In a relationship with my partner for 5 years. Engaged to be married this summer. We have 2 children together, have had normal ups and downs but in the past 1-2 years i have grown suspicious of emotional abuse in our relationship.
I thought maybe I was overreacting because for one, he said so. For 2, i was in an abusive relationship during my teens and early twenties and it was starting to bring back memories of those feelings.
Hiding my belongings, refusing to talk to me for days, refusing to discuss any problems about our relationship or finances etc. Gets angry at me if I ask for help with children or money. Lacks compassion for people in general. Fails to support us as a family, is quite a financial burden.

I was dealing with a lot of self doubt about leaving him and having a 'broken family'. He acts desperate for me to stay with him, he acts like a great family man overall in front of people.. i often wonder if i AM overreacting.
During the holidays I decided to break the silence to my mother and sisters of what was going on. Every single one of them backed him up and told me I was being way too harsh.
Now I'm completely lost, i have felt sad for months about my partner and his actions and now I feel like i might be crazy on top of that. Am I imagining this pain that he is causing me?

I don't know anymore.